Feminine power has some core elements to it that include softness and opening and I’ve made a video this week covering these aspects of what it takes be more feminine, feel your power and unlock your energy!
Did you know that softening is one of the greatest paths to true inner strength?
And yes, you read those words correctly…
…softening leads to strength.
This belief is certainly not what society wants us to adopt and accept, however for a woman who presents herself to the world through her flowing, feminine essence, one of our greatest superpowers is in the softening.
Softening puts you on a plush path to opening, and opening is like the budding flower blossoming into full pedals of feminine power.
Learning to soften our body, our voice and our mental chatter are 3 feminine keys for how to soften.
Maybe you can relate to my previous beliefs of thinking that strength came from being hard, self-assured and forthright.
A bit closed even.
I was taught..
How strength was equated to the amount of intensity in our efforts and actions.
How much can you push every fiber of your being forward to get as many things done in a certain period of time? How much can you produce?
How strong and assertive can you be in the corporate work-place, a field dominated by men and masculinity?
Sound like anyone you know?
It felt like whenever the word strength or success came up, a picture of a really macho, masculine man would appear in my mind, and I would funnel all of my actions through this image.
I didn’t hear strength or success in the same sentence as femininity, and the word softness was on a different page altogether!
If anything, my perspective on the world was that strength meant hardness and being tough.
My poor body and voice would then carry that strength and rigidity in my communication with people, friends and lovers.
The more I lived life like this, worked like this and conducted relationships like this, the more pain I felt inside, and the more “separate” I felt and the less like my authentic self.
The more I lived life like this…the less I attracted truly masculine men toward me…in fact, usually the opposite…but that’s a story for another day.
Do any of these outdated tunes rattle in the harmony of your day-to-day flow?
Do you recognize any of these in yourself?
Well, I’ve got some news for you.
These realities present themselves when we’re in man-mode.
And when we are in man-mode we are being… SPERMY!
Oolala, just typing those words makes me tighten and tense up!
My muscles can still remember my marriage with man-mode.
The strenuous, overwhelming, fatigue and eye bag-inducing life constantly left me feeling disconnected. It felt like my mind, body and spirit were all being tugged and pulled in different directions, as opposed to a fluid, linear alignment.
There was no softness…
There was no yin to the abundant amounts of yang.
The forcing, pushing and overworking was slicing through the yearnings of my soul.
The gerbil wheel of staying in man-mode and being spermy had my feminine energy cut like sharp corners.
One of the things that has become apparent to me is the loss of sexual polarity between men and women. This has created so much distress between us. This gender neutralizing has not brought equality, unity and gain, but confusion, dissonance and loss.
I consider myself part of a sexual revolution, a renewal of this polarity. My view is that when men are allowed to really be the masculine force and women are allowed to reveal the feminine, receptive power again, then much strife and confusion will abate from our world.
I see that it will bring peace and joy to us all. A renewal of what life, sexuality and even our spiritual practice can be.