Deep vulnerability is what I’ve been facing soooo intensely in the last few weeks.
It was my birthday last week and I find the solar return, when the Sun returns to the Sun triggers my biggest core wound, that of the withdrawal of the masculine.
I have been trained in astrology for over 20 years and the Sun represents the masculine, the father, so the solar return highlights this in me. You see, my father died when I was 13 years old.
This belief that the masculine will abandon me is very deep inside me, and got triggered again this birthday, despite the fact that the man in my life keeps turning up as so solid, so constant, like a pillar of Divine Love for me.
Why does this matter?
Somewhere along the line I, you, we were taught that vulnerability means weakness. The core message passed to me from my family was “Whatever you do, don’t be seen as vulnerable, not coping, not…..pretending”
Vulnerability is strength. There is power inside it. Courage. A discovery of our heart. Our humanity.
Recognizing, opening to and living through vulnerability and surrender has been an ongoing theme for me in the last few years.
Last week, I reacted to my partner, I believed he was withdrawing, but I knew that I had to speak out my biggest fear, my core wound to him. I had to stop hiding this. I had to let it be seen.
Being seen, speaking up and coming out of hiding are some of the most difficult things for women to do.
Oprahs recent Golden Globe acceptance speech impressed on us that “Speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have”.
It takes vulnerability to do this Huge, copious, messy chunks of it. …and we can’t do that alone. Brene Brown wrote a book called “Daring Greatly” in which she quotes “…embracing our vulnerability is risky, but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy” —> Click here to hear more about the Power Of Vulnerability
He became a solid pillar of love for me; he reassured me; of his love, of his care, of his presence.
My vulnerability was seen, held sacred and adored.
I feel more open, closer to him and more real inside.
I encourage you to dare greatly and embrace your vulnerability as one of the key entry ways into your feminine power.
Feminine power has some core elements to it that include softness and opening and I’ve made a video this week covering these aspects of what it takes be more feminine, feel your power and unlock your energy!
Your feminine essence is just longing and stretching to be embodied by every bone of your being.
You see, the inner forces of your innate feminine know-how are residing within you already! The feminine stream wants to flow and ooze in between all of the curves and crevices in your body, and as a result, pour itself into your body movements, speech and different states of simply being .
Although this energy lives within you, she may feel suppressed and hidden behind the leading masculine energy.
So how did you get here?
Society is dominated by masculinity at almost every corner! Being action-focused, goal-oriented, and constantly doing, doing, doing is pushing people forward, and unfortunately, as women we are reap the wrecking ball effect of this directional pull.
Feminine energy is open, fluid and receptive, and when we women connect to this pole, the force is translated into our life, work and relationships.
Unfortunately, the values of community, support, receptivity, love, and harmony also end up hidden in the valleys of a place far, far away…
And as a result, women’s overall health and well-being is suffering, and her flame for life is slowly dying whether she is fully aware of it or not. Now, more than ever we must connect to our feminine essence to preserve the preciousness of our true powers.
The good news is
The entire planet is wanting a resurfacing of feminine energy to gracefully fill the cracks and gaps left as a result of the ever-pursuing masculine. And if you are a woman lost in her man-mode mask, you are probably craving for your feminine zest to surface again!
You have a deep knowing of who you are at your core, and you must listen to her if you want to revive and stay alive through your feminine power.
You have to listen to her voice. She is soft and gentle, and values things like…slowing down and indulging in out breaths to create more space to enjoy life.
Your feminine essence is also seeking sensuality, pleasure and creativity to fully fill you up.
Didn’t love the feminine (in fact had serious issues with it!)
That I funded (because I made more money)
Blamed me for everything (didn’t own their stuff)
Sex didn’t really work (due to a lack of sexual polarity)
So, being who I am, I had to take a long hard look inside myself to see what it was about me that was attracting this kind of man. I realized that it was largely due to me being swung too hard into my own masculine and not enough in my feminine.
This my dear is how we emasculate men!
This, in addition to my realization 8 years ago that I had also run my companies for the last 25 years from my masculine is what led me to research what feminine power is and how to get more of it! As part of this I’ve been studying relationship and dating for the last 4+ years.
I don’t claim to be a relationship expert…but I am an ongoing and avid researcher and teacher about feminine power, and the feminine is all about relationship.
I’ve discovered a boat load of cool stuff around dating and relationships, brain science, hormones and communication. There’s nothing like a lifetime of shitty relationships to drive one to do this, hey!
So that’s what I did.
I’m here to share a few things that I’m discovering about dating and relationship as a smart, savvy, successful woman.
I’m pretty sure that what you are looking for is a very masculine, available and relationshipable (is that a word?) man, right? For you to feel met, matched and adored, then you are going to have to let go of the reins for a bit, let the man lead and learn how to create space, be in your feminine, love your body and invite him toward you.