The Myth of Perfection: And How To Be Truly Feminine

The Myth of Perfection: And How To Be Truly Feminine

The Leaning Tower of Pisa, wasn’t supposed to be leaning, but if it were straight it probably wouldn’t be such a popular tourist attraction.

I’m a recovering perfectionist, which is probably why I know a thing or two about this topic.

I mean, I love producing beautiful videos, creating awesome programs, leading my international sisterhood and, frankly, doing things really well. …and I’m critical of what I produce at every step single step of the process.

Whether it’s a new video, or a new program, a livestream or a blog post.

Here’s the deal

I let go, publish, and move forward.

Now, I’ve been fascinated by excellence my whole life.

As It Turns Out

Studies have shown that perfectionism is closely related to shame. it’s like we’re trying to hide something behind being perfect.

“Where there is perfectionism, there is always shame” says Brene Brown.

And perfectionism isn’t the same as healthy striving or a desire for excellence.


“How To Connect To Your Feminine Essence” – And Get Out Of Your Masculine

“How To Connect To Your Feminine Essence” – And Get Out Of Your Masculine

Your feminine essence is just longing and stretching to be embodied by every bone of your being.

You see, the inner forces of your innate feminine know-how are residing within you already! The feminine stream wants to flow and ooze in between all of the curves and crevices in your body, and as a result, pour itself into your body movements, speech and different states of simply being .

Although this energy lives within you, she may feel suppressed and hidden behind the leading masculine energy.


So how did you get here?

Society is dominated by masculinity at almost every corner! Being action-focused, goal-oriented, and constantly doing, doing, doing is pushing people forward, and unfortunately, as women we are reap the wrecking ball effect of this directional pull.

Feminine energy is open, fluid and receptive, and when we women connect to this pole, the force is translated into our life, work and relationships.

Unfortunately, the values of community, support, receptivity, love, and harmony also end up hidden in the valleys of a place far, far away…

And as a result, women’s overall health and well-being is suffering, and her flame for life is slowly dying whether she is fully aware of it or not. Now, more than ever we must connect to our feminine essence to preserve the preciousness of our true powers.


The good news is

The entire planet is wanting a resurfacing of feminine energy to gracefully fill the cracks and gaps left as a result of the ever-pursuing masculine. And if you are a woman lost in her man-mode mask, you are probably craving for your feminine zest to surface again!

You have a deep knowing of who you are at your core, and you must listen to her if you want to revive and stay alive through your feminine power.


The key?


You have to listen to her voice. She is soft and gentle, and values things like…slowing down and indulging in out breaths to create more space to enjoy life.

Your feminine essence is also seeking sensuality, pleasure and creativity to fully fill you up.

Watch this week’s video to learn the layers of tapping into your feminine essence here: How To Connect To Your Feminine Essence And Get Out Of Your Masculine.

Enjoy the video, and make sure to leave a comment below the video on Youtube with any questions that may arise while viewing.


The Anatomy of Desire.

The Anatomy of Desire.

You want to get what you want, right?  

Of course you do, doesn’t everyone?

Yes, we do!  However, I have found that in general, this doesn’t happen for people.  Why?  Because they don’t know what they want.  Or, people know what they think they want, and this is not the real thing.  This makes them frustrated and feeling disconnected from life.

The truth is

when you get to what you really want…it will not be what you think it is, and it will be many more things than you could possibly think!

I say think advisedly…because wantings and thinking don’t go together AT ALL!   If you want to get to the core of your wantings you have to go down deep, deep into the nether regions of your belly to find out what wantings are about.

Wantings are about your gut; not about gut instinct, but gut desires…wantings are visceral, full of life, mystery and wonder.

Hence, why I use the word wantings; plural.

When you get down to it,  there are always heaps of them.  And you know that you are starting to get in touch with the real thing when there are more than you could imagine satisfying in one human life.

You have to think of wantings as something you get to by peeling them away, teasing them out from other ones that you think you want first.   This is a process.  It depends on how honest you are prepared to get with yourself…how daring, how courageous!

Wantings and desires goes pretty closely hand-in-hand.   In the anatomy of desire is something alchemical and mysterious.  If you aren’t prepared to go down deep to uncover desires then you will continue to skim the surface, stay safe, and never end up satisfied with your life choices and decisions.   And we can’t talk about getting what you want if you aren’t prepared to look at, find and get what you desire….and desire is about the sexual energy.

This prospect is scary, even terrifying to most.  To do this you’ll need to challenge a whole bunch of personal and social assumptions and paradigms.

Religion still tells us that desire is unsafe, un-godly and must be repressed or at least tempered at all cost.   Modern religions are terrified of this force, this power.  What if it gets out of control?  However, whilst repressed or suppressed it ends up closeted.  The porn industry is alive and growing thank you very much!   Sexual violence can only ensue whilst it is not expressed normally, and by normally I mean with all of its depth, power and intensity in a relationship or other sexual experiences.  Healthy sexuality has a broad expression.

In Indian tantra, kundalini yoga and western alchemy,  the very fuel of their spiritual practice is the same fuel that is behind desire.  We are taught to engage this fuel, this power toward our very enlightenment!

Yes, it is wild, and fierce, but whilst it isn’t owned by us it can be unpredictable and scary and remain deeply buried.

Own your desires and wantings and you enter life in a way your couldn’t possibly imagine.  A life full of wonder, depth, creativity and connection.