Your feminine essence is just longing and stretching to be embodied by every bone of your being.
You see, the inner forces of your innate feminine know-how are residing within you already! The feminine stream wants to flow and ooze in between all of the curves and crevices in your body, and as a result, pour itself into your body movements, speech and different states of simply being .
Although this energy lives within you, she may feel suppressed and hidden behind the leading masculine energy.
So how did you get here?
Society is dominated by masculinity at almost every corner! Being action-focused, goal-oriented, and constantly doing, doing, doing is pushing people forward, and unfortunately, as women we are reap the wrecking ball effect of this directional pull.
Feminine energy is open, fluid and receptive, and when we women connect to this pole, the force is translated into our life, work and relationships.
Unfortunately, the values of community, support, receptivity, love, and harmony also end up hidden in the valleys of a place far, far away…
And as a result, women’s overall health and well-being is suffering, and her flame for life is slowly dying whether she is fully aware of it or not. Now, more than ever we must connect to our feminine essence to preserve the preciousness of our true powers.
The good news is
The entire planet is wanting a resurfacing of feminine energy to gracefully fill the cracks and gaps left as a result of the ever-pursuing masculine. And if you are a woman lost in her man-mode mask, you are probably craving for your feminine zest to surface again!
You have a deep knowing of who you are at your core, and you must listen to her if you want to revive and stay alive through your feminine power.
The key?
Embodiment.
You have to listen to her voice. She is soft and gentle, and values things like…slowing down and indulging in out breaths to create more space to enjoy life.
Your feminine essence is also seeking sensuality, pleasure and creativity to fully fill you up.
This weeks video answers a question from a YouTube subscriber “What are your opinions on being a feminist?”
Great question!
Well, in this video I cover the difference between the Feminine Power movement and what it is evolving from; the feminist movement.
I honor our sister forbears from the feminist movement, but make clear that what the world needs now is feminine power and that this is different from what the early feminists were fighting for.
Did you know that softening is one of the greatest paths to true inner strength?
And yes, you read those words correctly…
…softening leads to strength.
This belief is certainly not what society wants us to adopt and accept, however for a woman who presents herself to the world through her flowing, feminine essence, one of our greatest superpowers is in the softening.
Softening puts you on a plush path to opening, and opening is like the budding flower blossoming into full pedals of feminine power.
How so?
Learning to soften our body, our voice and our mental chatter are 3 feminine keys for how to soften.
Maybe you can relate to my previous beliefs of thinking that strength came from being hard, self-assured and forthright.
A bit closed even.
I was taught..
How strength was equated to the amount of intensity in our efforts and actions.
How much can you push every fiber of your being forward to get as many things done in a certain period of time? How much can you produce?
How strong and assertive can you be in the corporate work-place, a field dominated by men and masculinity?
Sound like anyone you know?
It felt like whenever the word strength or success came up, a picture of a really macho, masculine man would appear in my mind, and I would funnel all of my actions through this image.
I didn’t hear strength or success in the same sentence as femininity, and the word softness was on a different page altogether!
If anything, my perspective on the world was that strength meant hardness and being tough.
My poor body and voice would then carry that strength and rigidity in my communication with people, friends and lovers.
The result…
The more I lived life like this, worked like this and conducted relationships like this, the more pain I felt inside, and the more “separate” I felt and the less like my authentic self.
The more I lived life like this…the less I attracted truly masculine men toward me…in fact, usually the opposite…but that’s a story for another day.
What’s your first response when somebody compliments you?
“You look great!”
“Job well done!”
“Delicious cake!”
I know, I used to push it away and say “Oh, no I don’t; I didn’t; I can do better…”
Ouch.
When you praise someone and they don’t receive it, it hurts, right?
So, I learned to receive praise….gracefully, gratefully and graciously. Receiving praise and compliments is one of the eight tips for how to receive more in your life.
Check out my new video below where I go deep on HOW to receive more step by step.
They lived across the street from each other in India.
The brothel on one side; the monastery on the other.
The priest was celibate and frustrated and constantly peered out of his window at the brothel across the street.
The prostitute had big aspirations for enlightenment and would constantly peer out of her window at the monastery across the road wanting to be in full time meditation.
After death:
The priest went to a place that was full of lasciviousness and carnal desires.
The prostitute went to a place where she could meditate and be in constant union with the Divine.
Here’s why.
This story illustrates the power of our desires. Especially the hidden and constant, unspoken background ones.
You must desire, give attention to, and have intention for what you want in your life to receive it.
What does this mean for you?
This story reminds us of the power of finding and owning our hidden desires in order to get what we really want…NOW, rather than waiting any longer.
Essentially, in this video I talk about refocusing on what you do want and away from what you don’t.
Let’s discuss “How To Be More Feminine whilst using your guilty pleasures!”
I wanted to challenge you a bit…
I’ll teach you to take the word guilty out of the equation, and how to see them as pleasure pathways for stepping into more of your feminine essence!
Think about it.
Lots of feminine things, or things that get us into our feminine polarity and hence our feminine power, at first, appear as guilty pleasures!
Whether it’s eating that “naughty” slice of fully-deliciousness cake or listening and dancing around to our favorite radio pop songs, we all have desires for forms of pleasure that, because we have tacked the word guilty onto, we tend to avoid more often then we should.
I’m embarrassed to admit this.
For years and years…in fact most of my working life I viewed things like taking breaks, self-care, time with friends, prioritizing out breath and free time, as “wasting time”.
If I did indulge in those things I’d be feeling “guilty”and that time was being lost.
My spermy, masculine energy was swimming to dive back into that “to-do” list as soon as possible. ..and by the way, my friends could sense it. They didn’t feel my full presence and energy.
There was a lack of space, and a lack of innocent, joy-beaming from my life because I didn’t see the value in treating myself to these activities.
Here’s what happened.
By my early 40’s I was 3 degrees of burnt out.
Royally….burnt out if I may add.
And it took me years to recover from the hot temperatures, the overcooking, the burning.
The recovery alone resulted in a great amount of wasted time, energy and resources.
The secret is
By filling up on more pleasurable activities, you are stepping into your Queendom, wearing your crown and embodying your true feminine power.
Check out my full video below as I built a case for your “guilty pleasures” to get you back into your feminine power!
