Didn’t love the feminine (in fact had serious issues with it!)
That I funded (because I made more money)
Blamed me for everything (didn’t own their stuff)
Sex didn’t really work (due to a lack of sexual polarity)
Ouch!
So, being who I am, I had to take a long hard look inside myself to see what it was about me that was attracting this kind of man. I realized that it was largely due to me being swung too hard into my own masculine and not enough in my feminine.
This my dear is how we emasculate men!
This, in addition to my realization 8 years ago that I had also run my companies for the last 25 years from my masculine is what led me to research what feminine power is and how to get more of it! As part of this I’ve been studying relationship and dating for the last 4+ years.
I don’t claim to be a relationship expert…but I am an ongoing and avid researcher and teacher about feminine power, and the feminine is all about relationship.
I’ve discovered a boat load of cool stuff around dating and relationships, brain science, hormones and communication. There’s nothing like a lifetime of shitty relationships to drive one to do this, hey!
So that’s what I did.
I’m here to share a few things that I’m discovering about dating and relationship as a smart, savvy, successful woman.
I’m pretty sure that what you are looking for is a very masculine, available and relationshipable (is that a word?) man, right? For you to feel met, matched and adored, then you are going to have to let go of the reins for a bit, let the man lead and learn how to create space, be in your feminine, love your body and invite him toward you.
Self compassion is, in a lot of ways, the foundation for real self care. I’d call it the most inner way to provide care for yourself…and subsequently others.
Here’s why
I’ve always been the type of person who takes things very personally. You know… Someone’s short with me, or aggressive or over reacting to something. I think that I’ve done something wrong.
Most of the time, they’re just having a shitty day or hitting their own stuff.
The amount of stress this causes me is over the top, so I’ve learned to stop, take a breath and realize that they are human and having a bad moment or day.
It has ultimately lead to me being able to be more gentle and compassionate with others too.
This weeks video answers a question from a YouTube subscriber “What are your opinions on being a feminist?”
Great question!
Well, in this video I cover the difference between the Feminine Power movement and what it is evolving from; the feminist movement.
I honor our sister forbears from the feminist movement, but make clear that what the world needs now is feminine power and that this is different from what the early feminists were fighting for.
According to nature, the feminine is all about receiving. Just have a peek down there if you need more convincing!
Unlike the visible, external expression of male genitals, our pussy has a hidden, internal expression.
To receive is to take in, to take in is to receive…
Like the inner pull of the ocean’s tide, as the water rolls in [think yin] your ocean is receiving back from the efforts of the outward flow.
Think about it
How often do you reallyreceive?
When someone sends you a compliment is your natural instinct to accept it graciously, or to dodge and hide away from the praise?
In this week’s video, I am giving you 8 juicy tips on how to receive more in your life, because when you are receiving you are connected to your feminine essence.
Here’s a sneak preview of the tips!
Receive praise!
When someone extends a compliment to you, I encourage you to step into your feminine by fully embracing the praise.
Perhaps a stranger told you how much she likes your blouse, or a work superior highlighted you for your excellent work on a presentation.
Do not reject these simple words by making a self-deprecating statement on how “this old blouse doesn’t even fit me nicely anymore,” or saying “oh no, no, I stuttered over my words and completely messed up my last slide.”
What if…
…Instead
…you practice receiving praise by:
Taking a breath
Thanking them gracefully and graciously with a simple “Thank you.”
I share 7 more tips for How To Receive More In Your Life in the video below:
If your mind presents any questions or comments while watching the video, I would absolutely love for you to comment your thoughts below the Youtube video.
Remember ladies, it is okay for you to receive. Step into your Queendom by embracing the different ways people want to give to you.
Did you know that softening is one of the greatest paths to true inner strength?
And yes, you read those words correctly…
…softening leads to strength.
This belief is certainly not what society wants us to adopt and accept, however for a woman who presents herself to the world through her flowing, feminine essence, one of our greatest superpowers is in the softening.
Softening puts you on a plush path to opening, and opening is like the budding flower blossoming into full pedals of feminine power.
How so?
Learning to soften our body, our voice and our mental chatter are 3 feminine keys for how to soften.
Maybe you can relate to my previous beliefs of thinking that strength came from being hard, self-assured and forthright.
A bit closed even.
I was taught..
How strength was equated to the amount of intensity in our efforts and actions.
How much can you push every fiber of your being forward to get as many things done in a certain period of time? How much can you produce?
How strong and assertive can you be in the corporate work-place, a field dominated by men and masculinity?
Sound like anyone you know?
It felt like whenever the word strength or success came up, a picture of a really macho, masculine man would appear in my mind, and I would funnel all of my actions through this image.
I didn’t hear strength or success in the same sentence as femininity, and the word softness was on a different page altogether!
If anything, my perspective on the world was that strength meant hardness and being tough.
My poor body and voice would then carry that strength and rigidity in my communication with people, friends and lovers.
The result…
The more I lived life like this, worked like this and conducted relationships like this, the more pain I felt inside, and the more “separate” I felt and the less like my authentic self.
The more I lived life like this…the less I attracted truly masculine men toward me…in fact, usually the opposite…but that’s a story for another day.
What’s your first response when somebody compliments you?
“You look great!”
“Job well done!”
“Delicious cake!”
I know, I used to push it away and say “Oh, no I don’t; I didn’t; I can do better…”
Ouch.
When you praise someone and they don’t receive it, it hurts, right?
So, I learned to receive praise….gracefully, gratefully and graciously. Receiving praise and compliments is one of the eight tips for how to receive more in your life.
Check out my new video below where I go deep on HOW to receive more step by step.
They lived across the street from each other in India.
The brothel on one side; the monastery on the other.
The priest was celibate and frustrated and constantly peered out of his window at the brothel across the street.
The prostitute had big aspirations for enlightenment and would constantly peer out of her window at the monastery across the road wanting to be in full time meditation.
After death:
The priest went to a place that was full of lasciviousness and carnal desires.
The prostitute went to a place where she could meditate and be in constant union with the Divine.
Here’s why.
This story illustrates the power of our desires. Especially the hidden and constant, unspoken background ones.
You must desire, give attention to, and have intention for what you want in your life to receive it.
What does this mean for you?
This story reminds us of the power of finding and owning our hidden desires in order to get what we really want…NOW, rather than waiting any longer.
Essentially, in this video I talk about refocusing on what you do want and away from what you don’t.
The other day I spotted a Ferrari parked on the side of the street.
Wow! What a machine…so beautiful, just sitting there.
Gorgeous industrial design, sleek lines, Ferrari red!
Now, I’ve never driven in a Ferrari, but I’ve seen them driving, and boy, does her real self show up when she’s all fueled up and driving in the way only she can.
Think about it.
A Ferrari is actually a performance racing car.
They’re designed for speed, smoothness, holding the road…performance…but you could be fooled to think she was just a beautiful example of industrial design if all you’d ever seen of one was it parked on the side of the street.
Let’s discuss “How To Be More Feminine whilst using your guilty pleasures!”
I wanted to challenge you a bit…
I’ll teach you to take the word guilty out of the equation, and how to see them as pleasure pathways for stepping into more of your feminine essence!
Think about it.
Lots of feminine things, or things that get us into our feminine polarity and hence our feminine power, at first, appear as guilty pleasures!
Whether it’s eating that “naughty” slice of fully-deliciousness cake or listening and dancing around to our favorite radio pop songs, we all have desires for forms of pleasure that, because we have tacked the word guilty onto, we tend to avoid more often then we should.
I’m embarrassed to admit this.
For years and years…in fact most of my working life I viewed things like taking breaks, self-care, time with friends, prioritizing out breath and free time, as “wasting time”.
If I did indulge in those things I’d be feeling “guilty”and that time was being lost.
My spermy, masculine energy was swimming to dive back into that “to-do” list as soon as possible. ..and by the way, my friends could sense it. They didn’t feel my full presence and energy.
There was a lack of space, and a lack of innocent, joy-beaming from my life because I didn’t see the value in treating myself to these activities.
Here’s what happened.
By my early 40’s I was 3 degrees of burnt out.
Royally….burnt out if I may add.
And it took me years to recover from the hot temperatures, the overcooking, the burning.
The recovery alone resulted in a great amount of wasted time, energy and resources.
The secret is
By filling up on more pleasurable activities, you are stepping into your Queendom, wearing your crown and embodying your true feminine power.
Check out my full video below as I built a case for your “guilty pleasures” to get you back into your feminine power!
Want to know more about why as a woman we must, must, must learn how to “Be” to experience the fullness of our feminine power?
It all boils down to this:
The masculine is about doing;
The feminine is about being.
And here’s the secret.
It is Being that will allow you the spaciousness, the opening and the glowing grace to experience the feeling of being in your feminine polarity and hence your feminine power.
Being is a new skill…or, a skill that we need to re-learn and apply to our daily life to be able to both trust and turn on our feminine power again.
When we master the transition from Doing to Being we can begin to drink gallons of our feminine flow.
Here’s Why.
Doing is what is usually rewarded, remunerated and applauded in this masculine dominant world.
Boys and girls alike grow up under this umbrella, and as we grow into adulthood, this umbrella gets bigger and quite frankly, begins to drown us as women.
But here’s the problem.
There’s a ticking time bomb inside you if you keep going down the same track that you’re on. This non stop pushing, striving, competing….
It’s now the time to change this…to remember and realize that it is by being in your feminine side and hence your feminine power, that you will fully enjoy the life and work that you want.
…and you’ll LOVE the entire process.
Ladies, let’s go out there and shine this week from our unlimited feminine supply source!
Click the link below to watch the video on How to Be In Your Feminine Power.
