Yep, this week is all about Feminine Sexual Energy!
You may be wondering why I’ve made a video on this, right?
Here’s the problem.
Without being in a real, deep relationship to your sexual energy, as a woman, you will be out of touch with the life force behind feminine power.
Feminine power is not an “idea” or simply having different ways of communicating, thinking and acting in your life. (Although, this is certainly part of getting back into your feminine power and energy.)
Feminine power is really about getting tapped into the force of the feminine inside your body. This force lives within every woman, but without being plugged into for it’s supply, it lies dormant and therefore, holds back all of it’s juiciness and magnetic powers!
Your sexuality, your orgasm, your force, your power.
These come from the inside out, and not the outside in, and because of this, we must go deep within to nurture and spark this powerful essence.
Best of all…
When you start to get this, I mean really GET this, then you will be forever tapped into an unlimited font of power, creativity and energy.
And yes I did say, unlimited! You will become an attractive, magnetic force who can wo-manifest whatever she wants and desires!
This force is within you, however, she is currently hiding behind the walls of fear, shame, guilt…and many other hidden beliefs.
The good news?
When you learn, or really re-learn the feminine arts, you start to tap into this unlimited font of energy inside yourself…this creative, juicy, powerful force that shapes your very body, life and existence.
This force is a direct source of pure passion, zest and vibrancy that reflects into the world around you!
I created this video to show you how essential feminine sexual energy is in your life, and is longing to be stroked, fondled and used for your creative desires!
Enjoy the video, and I would love for you to leave a comment below the video on YouTube. I’ll be checking and answering them for you.
My business last year started up very quickly and very successfully, and I, believed the gods were “on my side” and the momentum was only going to continue to grow. And so, I took on an expensive apartment that, on paper, made sense. I could live there, work from there, it was a great space for a video studio and I could see my clients there. It added up on paper, but the truth is, I bit of more than I could chew and couldn’t for-see other factors moving forward, such as, getting quite sick from the EMF frequencies from a very nearby cellphone tower. This lead to momentum having to slow down and I didn’t have the energy to do what I had started doing. The only way I could move forward was going back into man-mode or surrendering the apartment.
Surrendering was what I chose.
Despite this, what it lead to was a 4 month adventure, that until now, I wasn’t ready to share with you.
It started when I decided to get out of the apartment and sub-let it. It wasn’t until literally the last day of October, that my sub-tenant flew in from China and wrote me a check for the 4 month sub-let. Until that morning, I didn’t have the rent to cover the next month, and I had no certainty that he would take the apartment.
I simply HAD to surrender and trust the flow of life.
Well for me surrender hasn’t been my easiest path.
I was pushed to surrender, finally. It is something that I’ve researched, aspired to, wanted deeply for 20 years, but I really never had any role models to show me HOW to do it.
So, life made me finally let go of a lifetime of resentments, hurts and pain. I let go of not trusting life to take care of me. I let go of the automatic return to “man-mode” that I would tend to do, to “take care of business” because life, apparently, wasn’t doing that for me.
What my last 4 month “Surrender Experiment” has taught me, so far, has been phenomenal. In that time, I have lived completely rent-free at the grace of friends, clients and new friends homes. I taught a 3 day training in a dear friends home in San Diego; I spent 6 weeks on a ranch in San Luis Obisbo in which I took care of the animals and the old man, but spent every few days at a natural hot springs and the opportunity to deeply recover my health; I was lead to what is my new home, via a craigslist post for house sitting, back in the Bay Area at unbelievably low rent for a gorgeous house in Oakland; I am meeting gorgeous masculine men in my dating forays; My youtube channel is building and clients are flocking to me from all over the world to do discovery sessions with me from my videos on there.
And, boy, what a relief, to finally let go, to trust life and to *really* be in my feminine orientation. So much tension has left my body, so much joy and grace is offered to me on a daily basis.
Surrender is so deeply essential to feminine power and so deeply misunderstood. Which is why I created a video about surrender whilst whilst I was in my car driving to a recent meditation intensive.
Click on the video below to see what I have to say about what surrender really is and how to do it. Enjoy and I’d love you to leave a comment!
Goal setting for me is about the magic of feeling both powerful in taking action and letting go and surrendering to the process, time and the Divine plan for me.
It doesn’t seem possible for those concepts to inhabit the same space. This is why I LOVE goal setting.
It’s the magical marriage of the masculine and the feminine!
When I get in my car to drive to a restaurant I first work out which restaurant I want to go to; I look it up, research it, feel into it, know that my belly and my body really wants that food and that experience; I then pop it into my GPS, jump in my car and know where I’m heading.
Sometimes en-route to the restaurant, my GPS needs to deviate it’s initial pathway because of road works or traffic; sometimes…sometimes, I am inspired to change the restaurant en-route!
If I got in my car with no destination in mind, then I’d be driving around aimlessly, using up fuel, wasting time, energy and it would feel pretty pointless. I could end up at an interesting destination by doing this, but without at least knowing what type of food or experience I am wanting, my needs are unlikely to get met.
Goal setting in a nutshell.
Knowing what your desires, wants and needs are is the first stage of goal setting.
This is done by diving deep deep inside yourself to feel into what you really want in your day, your year, your business, your relationships, your life.
I like to do this thing that I call “back-casting”.
Think of what forecasting is, but I do it in reverse. I envision my 10 years goals first. Feel into how I want to feel in my life, then the imagery comes, the details, the people, places, yumminess and success of my life and business emerges.
After this has been done fully and with all of the juicy focus I can muster, I do 5 year goals…in the same focused, engaged, visceral way.
From this, one year goals emerge clearly and they are en-route to the 10 year goals. But these ones are really important because they are the ones that are closest and on the road in front of you to take action on or wait for guidance from your GPS – or what I call the God Positioning System!
I then turn it all over to the GPSto plan the way, the route and any deviations that it has for me, my tribe and my life.
Goal setting gives me both power and surrender. The masculine and the feminine.
My honest to goodness best ever focus and efficiency tip for success in your business is so super simple!
Schedule your day the night before!
Yep, it’s that simple.
Look at tomorrows calendar, see what of your time blocks and commitments are already in place for that day (if you don’t know what time blocks are I’ll do a post on that soon – but check this out in the meantime).
You then decide on exactly what tasks (TO-DO’s) you can realistically do for the day.
On the day
…You follow the plan that you outlined the night before.
This will save you so much totally avoidable stress!
What do you do if you have interruptions or plan changes?
Well, you simply schedule it for the next day or the next logical time block.
The art of Performance in a feminine based business is commanding time rather than it commanding you.
I disappeared for a while as I decided to move out of my apartment due to toxic EMF (Electro Magnetic Frequency) effects on my health. (Cellphone tower only 60ft from my apartment…)
So, I’m now travelling around the Southwest of the USA and spending time with clients and friends. It’s funny because it is really making me run my business in a super fluid, feminine way, not having a routine or normal structure to rest on in my home/office.
And I’m having such a blast with the women that I’m staying with. Such sweetness, feminine hospitality and fun we are having!
It has certainly given me pause to look back on 2015 and view it from a different vantage point.
What do you see when you look back at your 2015?
Have you got the level of success that you planned for?
Did you plan at all, really?
What do you need to improve on?
Are you living on purpose?
What is the single biggest challenge you are having in your business that you’d like solved right now?
Well, here I am sitting in Austin, TX at Zhi Tea which I started with it’s Co-Founder in 2007 feeling so much gratitude for my clients, my friends, my new business associates and emerging JV partnerships.
2015 has been a whirlwind year of starting up a new phase of my business, Feminine Success, landing in the Bay Area and starting two new programs.
I did close to 50 talks this year to over 1800 women and I’ve been working with some of the worlds top coaches and mentors and engaging the best clients of my life, who I totally love and adore working with.
In short I’m creating my dream life and dream business.
Yes, I could focus on the problems, the strains, the difficulties I’ve had, the “it never rains, but it pours” sporadic nature of a new business. I could focus on the times of fear that crept in, the uncertainty, the mistakes that I’ve made….and there were plenty!
But I choose to focus on gratitude, love, joy and potential. The great things simply outweigh the negatives. It has certainly felt like a birthing process! My new baby, Feminine Success llc, has been born.
She may be small, vulnerable and dependent still, but she is beautiful and I love her very much and what she can do to impact the world. My vision for her, like a parents vision for their child is one of only the greatest and fullest possibility.
How can you make 2016 the best year ever?
To help you with that, I’d love to ask you this question?
What is the single biggest challenge you are having in your business that you’d like solved right now?
Respond below with your answer to this question. I’d love to help you answer that.
This step is all about your product or service and how to market and sell them!
So, what is it that you are offering your peeps? Is it your time as a practitioner or therapist? Is it a membership site that you fill with all sorts of great content? Is it a great workshop or retreat? Is it a product or a bunch of products? Is it a mixture of all of the above?
Now, we need to go back to the Purpose step to see who your peeps are and in which environment you most want to be with them. Remember when I asked the question “What is the juiciest environment in which you’d LOVE to work?” Simple, but super essential and powerful step.
If you can dream it, you can do it
~ Walt Disney
Once you’ve worked this out (Through knowing your Purpose and your People) then we have to talk about what you are going to do with them.
One key is to find out from them what they want to know about, what their main pain points are in their life and how they like to learn. Another key is what do YOU like to do. How do you most enjoy sharing your awesome gifts with your people? Simple enough.
What if I told you that you can do pretty much anything with them. Yep, do exactly what you want, in the way that you want, with the people that you want to work with!
Here are a few ways you can market to and find your people:
Speaking: One of my personal favorites. I LOVE speaking whether at a conference, a meetup or a small gig nearby. I just love having my ultimate peeps in a room and inspiring them that their life can be better and their problems can be solved with my formulas and systems.
Retreats/Workshops: This is probably my favorite way to teach and coach people. I love the intimacy, the intensity and the level of transformation that it brings. You can conduct 2 – 10 day workshops anywhere in the country and the world!
1:1 Sessions: I’ve done this for the last 17 years and I love the intimacy of private client sessions and how I can laser focus in one just one person at a time.
Membership Site: Great way to deliver content in pretty much any form you like. Videos, Audio, Pdfs, Manuals.
I have a dear friend and peer who teaches women about the feminine nature of money. She only likes to teach women in small groups of under twenty, and do it in the redwoods on retreat. Pretty specific huh? This is uniquely HER way of doing things. She feels at her best there and that she can give the most to them there.
I think we’re having fun. I think our customers really like our products. And we’re always trying to do better.
~ Steve Jobs
One last tip: People buy results. You need to be super clear on the results that you will provide them. Clear on the results in the way you write on your website and in your marketing materials and in the way you speak. Be clear and consistent. A great way to show your results in via a system or formula.
Essentially your “product” is an opportunity for a truly creative expression of who you are and how you love to do things.
In fact the more differentiated you are, the more you are tightly niched, the more successful you will be.
Don’t feel like you have to do it in a way that anybody has done in the past. This is your business; imitate if you want; innovate if you want. Remember this is the time of the personal brandand you are a truly unique personal brand!
This is the last step in the 7 Step Feminine Success Formula!
Here’s to your juicy feminine successful business!