The Myth of Perfection: And How To Be Truly Feminine

The Leaning Tower of Pisa, wasn’t supposed to be leaning, but if it were straight it probably wouldn’t be such a popular tourist attraction.

I’m a recovering perfectionist, which is probably why I know a thing or two about this topic.

I mean, I love producing beautiful videos, creating awesome programs, leading my international sisterhood and, frankly, doing things really well. …and I’m critical of what I produce at every step single step of the process.

Whether it’s a new video, or a new program, a livestream or a blog post.

Here’s the deal

I let go, publish, and move forward.

Now, I’ve been fascinated by excellence my whole life.

As It Turns Out

Studies have shown that perfectionism is closely related to shame. it’s like we’re trying to hide something behind being perfect.

“Where there is perfectionism, there is always shame” says Brene Brown.

And perfectionism isn’t the same as healthy striving or a desire for excellence.

 

The Power of Vulnerability

Deep vulnerability is what I’ve been facing soooo intensely in the last few weeks.

It was my birthday last week and I find the solar return, when the Sun returns to the Sun triggers my biggest core wound, that of the withdrawal of the masculine.

I have been trained in astrology for over 20 years and the Sun represents the masculine, the father, so the solar return highlights this in me. You see, my father died when I was 13 years old.

This belief that the masculine will abandon me is very deep inside me, and got triggered again this birthday, despite the fact that the man in my life keeps turning up as so solid, so constant, like a pillar of Divine Love for me.

Why does this matter?

Somewhere along the line I, you, we were taught that vulnerability means weakness. The core message passed to me from my family was  “Whatever you do, don’t be seen as vulnerable, not coping, not…..pretending”

The truth?

Vulnerability is strength. There is power inside it. Courage. A discovery of our heart. Our humanity.

Watch my video on the power of vulnerability.

Recognizing,  opening to and living through vulnerability and surrender has been an ongoing theme for me in the last few years.

Last week, I reacted to my partner, I believed he was withdrawing, but I knew that I had to speak out my biggest fear, my core wound to him. I had to stop hiding this. I had to let it be seen.

Being seen, speaking up and coming out of hiding are some of the most difficult things for women to do.

Oprahs recent Golden Globe acceptance speech impressed on us that “Speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have”.

It takes vulnerability to do this Huge, copious, messy chunks of it. …and we can’t do that alone. Brene Brown wrote a book called “Daring Greatly” in which she quotes “…embracing our vulnerability is risky, but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy” —> Click here to hear more about the Power Of Vulnerability

The result?

He became a solid pillar of love for me; he reassured me; of his love, of his care, of his presence.

My vulnerability was seen, held sacred and adored.

I feel more open, closer to him and more real inside.

I encourage you to dare greatly and embrace your vulnerability as one of the key entry ways into your feminine power.

 

How To Get Into Your “Feminine Vs. Feminist Power”

This weeks video answers a question from a YouTube subscriber “What are your opinions on being a feminist?”

Great question!

Well, in this video I cover the difference between the Feminine Power movement and what it is evolving from; the feminist movement.

I honor our sister forbears from the feminist movement, but make clear that what the world needs now is feminine power and that this is different from what the early feminists were fighting for.

Check out my new video below where I clarify the difference between Feminine vs Feminist Power.

 

How To Soften Into Your Feminine Power

Did you know that softening is one of the greatest paths to true inner strength?

Softening leads to opening and opening is where the rubber hits the road in terms of feminine power.

How so?

Learning to soften our body, our voice and our mind/thoughts are 3 keys for how to do this. I don’t know about you, but I was taught that strength came from being hard, self-assured and forthright.

My body and my voice would carry that in my communication with people, friends and lovers.

The result…

The more I lived life like this, worked like this and conducted relationships like this, the more pain I felt inside, the more “separate” I felt and the less like my authentic self.

I invite you to watch this weeks video: 3 Keys For “How To SoftenYour Feminine Power”where I answer a question from a subscriber about “How To Soften The Voice…”

How To Receive More In Your Life

Be honest.

What’s your first response when somebody compliments you?

“You look great!”

“Job well done!”

“Delicious cake!”

I know, I used to push it away and say “Oh, no I don’t; I didn’t;  I can do better…”

Ouch.

When you praise someone and they don’t receive it, it hurts, right?

So, I learned to receive praise….gracefully, gratefully and graciously. Receiving praise and compliments is one of the eight tips for how to receive more in your life.

Check out my new video below where I go deep on HOW to receive more step by step.

 

How To Dial Desire To Get What You Want

There is story about a priest and a prostitute.

They lived across the street from each other in India.

The brothel on one side; the monastery on the other.

The priest was celibate and frustrated and constantly peered out of his window at the brothel across the street.

The prostitute had big aspirations for enlightenment and would constantly peer out of her window at the monastery across the road wanting to be in full time meditation.

I invite you to watch this video: How To Dial Desire To Get What You Want

After death:- The priest went to a place that was full of lasciviousness and carnal desires. The prostitute went to a place where she could meditate and be in constant union with the Divine.

Here’s why.

This story illustrates the power of our desire. Especially the hidden and constant, unspoken background ones.

Click here to learn How To Dial Desire To Get What You Want

What does this mean for you?

This story reminds us of the power of finding and owing our hidden desires in order to get what we really want…NOW, rather than waiting any longer.

Essentially, In this video I talk about refocusing on what you do want and away from what you don’t. Check out my full video below: